Resilience is the ability to bounce back from the twists and turns of life. We all need resilience, but do we all have it? The answer is yes, we all have the ability to be resilient no matter what we face in life. Sometimes finding the strength to bounce back is hard, but with a little work and putting one foot in front of the other, we can find the strength to cope and move forward.
I recently asked the amazing people featured in The Imagine Project how they made it through their challenges of life. They each replied something different, but they all had one thing in common; believe and take the first step. First, find something to believe in. Sharletta, Troy and Aurea had a strong faith in God. Babs leaned on her faith, family and friends, and Randle relied on the strength of his ancestors, knowing if those before him made it through, he could as well. Jason and Randle both said they were pushed by their anger; their deep emotions made them do something more. Every person in the book recommended believing in something, maybe God or a higher power, or someone else in your life, maybe family or friends. Second, do something—anything—to move forward. If the first thing you try doesn’t work, try something else. Third, never stop believing in yourself and the possibility that things can change. Some days this may be hard, but the next day it will be easier. Throughout his addiction, Troy believed he was worth it. He over came his heroin addiction by trying everyday to find something, somewhere that could help him—because he knew he was worth it.
And the very wise Foster Bailey, a man who became a father to his two young nephews after his sister was murdered, and then a year later his house burned down, said to stay grounded. “I knew early on that becoming overwhelmed was a recipe for failure, and I knew that if we failed to handle the situation well, we would be saddled with regret forever.”
The people featured in The Imagine Project are no different than you and I. They are everyday people. Research shows that we all have the innate ability to be resilient. If you are struggling, follow the advice from those who have been there, have faith, believe in something, know that you are worth it and stay grounded. If you find you can’t find your way, get help; talk to friends, family, someone in your church, and/or a professional in counseling. There is always hope.
How have you made it through tough times?
Read more about Resilience in a wonderful Blog by Debbie Davis, PhD which was recently posted by Psychology Today.